The Top Ten Reasons to Flirt Online

Flirting online, whether you are on MySpace, FriendFinder using instant messaging software, or simply via e-mail, is fun. In fact, men and women alike have found it is a great deal of fun to leave flirty e-mails that tease the brain as well as the senses.

Why is flirting online so much fun? Here are the top ten reasons.

Electronic flirting is not as intimidating as flirting in person.

Many people find that flirting online is less intimidating because you are not as self-conscious on the Internet. You are flirting from the safety and security of your own home.

You can flirt any time, day or night.

Flirting online knows no time zone or standard clock. If you are in a sexy mood late at night or first thing in the morning, you can leave a flirty e-mail or message for someone without interrupting them.

You don’t have to worry about your appearance.

Online flirting can be successfully done while in a suit or in your bathrobe, unlike meeting someone for dinner. Unless you have a web cam, it’s all the same to the person receiving the message.
You can carefully plan your thoughts before writing them – unlike saying them unrehearsed.

Wouldn’t it be nice if we had a delete key for real-life speaking situations? Flirting online allows you to have a better sense of control over your message and your approach.
You can surprise someone with a sexy e-mail message.

When you are with an intimate friend, it is a given you will flirt. A flirty e-mail is unexpected and is a thrill to receive.

You can flirt with a wide variety of people online, whereas you may be limited in social settings.

In a social setting, the opportunity for flirting may not come up. You could be in a crowded place, and you could want to flirt with the best looking person in the room. Doing so would leave you blushing and perhaps at a loss for words. Online, when you aren’t standing right in front of the great looking guy or girl, is the perfect chance for you to flirt like crazy.

There are no time commitments to flirting online.

You can sign on to the Internet and send a flirty instant message in under five minutes. Getting dressed up, going out, meeting the person, and carrying on a conversation can take hours.
Flirting online is practically free.

Aside from a DSL or broadband Internet statement each month (which you would have regardless of whether or not you were flirting online), teasing people online is free. Going out costs money; flirting online is the budget-conscious thing to do.

You have the person’s undivided attention.

Chatting online or sending e-mails is great because you aren’t competing with other people for the person’s attention. Usually, if the time is not right, the reader will return to the message or e-mail at a more convenient time. The message is stated and can be better interpreted than it would have been if you’d said it in a crowded room.

You can go back and re-read the sensual e-mails you’ve gotten.

In real life settings, we rely on memories to recall sexy conversations. Online chats can be reviewed and saved for future reference. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could document our offline steamy chat?

How To Be Popular - Dating Tips for Teenagers

Most teenagers would like to be popular if they could. But many are baffled as to just what it takes to achieve popularity, or even to get a date. Knowing that is generally considered attractive to the opposite sex helps.



Also understanding what boys expect of girls and what girls expect of boys in a given community is especially important.

In general young people like members of the other sex who are

1. Careful of their personal appearance
2. Courteous and thoughtful; and
3. Fun to be with.

A girl doesn't have to be a beauty to get a date. She just has to dress appropriately, be neat and well groomed, and then try to forget her appearance. The same goes for a boy. If he's clean and neat (hair combed, fresh shirt, nails clean) he's acceptable, and probably attractive to someone.

Courtesy is mentioned frequently by both boys and girls as a desirable quality in a date. Actually, being courteous is just being thoughtful of others; it's easy to get the habit. Sometimes a young person grows up in a family that is careless or casual about little courtesies, and he has to learn not to speak when someone else is talking, not to talk with a mouth full of food.

If you keep your voice low and pleasant, say "Thank you" and "Excuse me" at appropriate times, it makes a pleasant impression on new and old friends. Some schools have special courses in social arts where students get opportunities for practicing those graces that make getting along with others easy. Books, articles, and lectures also help to give boys and girls an idea of what kind of behavior is expected of them when they begin to have dates.

When you say "Ted is such fun to be with!" do you know why? Do you realize it takes practice to become a "fun person"? It involves some rather complicated skills-knowing how to carry on a conversation, knowing how to enter a group pleasantly, being able to accept and refuse invitations graciously, assuming responsibility for one's part in the group activity, and generally making others glad that you're there.

Most boys and girls are awkward in group situations at first. But as they gain experience, first in simple situations with .^others who know and like them, they get over being self-conscious. Soon they become so poised that they feel at home in most social situations. But this takes time and experience -lots of it.

It is no accident that boys and girls who have belonged to clubs and organizations get along more easily with people than do those who have grown up somewhat isolated. Being a member of a group not only gives you experience in planning and making decisions with others, in carrying responsibility for your part in a project, but it also introduces you to a variety of human situations and human beings. You begin to learn how the next guy "ticks."

If you want to be more acceptable to the other sex, then you ought to get into group activities with other young people of both sexes. Mingling with a mixed group will ready you for dating and develop those skills which will help you carry off a date successfully.

Tips on Leaving Voice Message to Attract Women

Women we've surveyed tell us that when they first get in contact with a guy via voice mail, they are mostly trying to find out how the sound of the guy's voice makes them feel. Put yourself in her position: She's thinking, "Sure, the guy is saying things, but what does he look like? And how does his voice make me feel? Does he sound scary? Does he sound sad? Or does he sound full of life, awake, and into things?"

So there are two things you have to think about. First, what you say. Second, how you sound saying it.

First, what you say. You might start off with something like:

"Hi there! I'm glad you wanted me to call. My name is [first name]. You are probably most curious just to hear the sound of my voice, and to see how it makes you feel--sort of a 'does this guy sound cool?' situation. So, well, here I am; I hope you like the sound of me, and
that you feel good hearing my voice. I'd be very interested in hearing yours!"

Then you can basically just re-say some of the stuff you said in your personals ad, and perhaps expand upon it a BIT. The biggest mistake you can make here is to go on for three, four, or five minutes about yourself. Remember, at the beginning, most women are not interested in you--they are interested in how you make them feel. So you want to leave a lot to the imagination.

Describe yourself physically, and say a few things about what you are into, or mention what you do for a living--whatever you think will be most likely to capture her imagination. It's a good idea to mention any "special features" you have. If you are tall, say so. If you are at all attractive or fit, say so, by saying something like "People tell me I'm attractive, and I pay attention to how I look" or "I work out regularly and keep myself fit." If you are rich, you might say, "I've been lucky enough to have abundant money in my life, so that has given me some freedom to travel that I have really appreciated."

The bottom line is this, though: the shorter the better--You really don't have to go on for very long.

Second, how you sound saying it: Of course, if this going to work, your voice has to sound good. If your voice sounds like a rusty saw, upset, angry, sad, or is unpleasant to listen to, then you have some work to do.

You can improve the sound of your voice, and it's worth doing if your voice doesn't sound as nice as it could. Do some deep breathing before calling, and try warming up your voice by taking a deep breath, and making a low "ahhhh" sound as you exhale (do this BEFORE calling her, not WHILE calling her. Most women do not consider deep breathing and moans to be very seductive on the first phone call. Go figure.).

Remember to breath fully while you speak, and smile as you leave the message. Some of our students have good luck leaving messages right after they work out, because that's when their voices sound strongest, fullest and most vibrant. There may be some other time of the day when
you feel most vibrant. Leave your message then.

At the end of your message, remember to make an invitation to her: "If this sounds interesting to you, please contact me," and tell her how. Leave both your phone number and your email address, so she can contact you even if she's afraid to call.

And finally, don't worry about it. You are better off leaving a sincere if stammering message than a practiced but artificial-sounding one. Go over what you might say, then just call, talk, and don't worry about it.

Dealing with Girl who Got Boyfriend

The girl I'm hot for has a boyfriend who doesn't fulfill her. She says she loves me, but won't leave him for me. I keep waiting, but it only seems like they are getting closer. Yet she says she is unhappy with him.

When will she leave him for me ?

The answer is NEVER. The way you have things set up now, she will never leave him for you.

This is a classic male dilemma. She says she wants a guy like you, but, somehow, she stays (and gives sex to!) the guy who she claims to not like. You don't like this situation. Why would you?

You're problem is that you think that because you are unhappy, and because she is unfulfilled, it means that she will inevitably leave him and go out with you, instead. You tell yourself that all you have to do is wait, and the situation will eventually cut your way. But it doesn't--in fact, the more time you spend with her, the more it seems like she is committed to her boyfriend.

The problem is this: The way you have things set up now, she is getting everything she wants, and has no incentive to change anything. She says she is unfulfilled by her boyfriend, but the fact that she stays with him belies that she in fact DOES get something out of it. It fulfills some subconscious need of hers that you will probably never understand.

The truth is, you are unhappy with this situation, but she is just fine. She can have hot sex with her boyfriend, then complain to you about how unfulfilled she is, and you give her love and support unconditionally. She has everything she wants, and she will NOT leave him for you, as long as this is true.

If you want this to change, you have to take some risks yourself.

Here are the risks you have to start taking, today, if you want to turn this situation around:

Pursue other women. If you want to turn her into a lover, it is crucial beyond words that she not be your one-and-only-hope for sex. You must be pursuing other women, flirting with other women, romancing other women and being sexual with other women. It will give you a sense of patience with your "friend," remove any sense of desperation you may be feeling around her and make you less available-and thus more attractive-to her.

Act like a lover, not like a female friend. Pop quiz, hotshot: what does a man who becomes a woman's friend do differently with her than another woman would? Answer: nothing. Moral: if you want a woman to see you as a sexual man, rather than basically as an ugly woman, then you must act differently than another woman would. This is true for women you are just meeting as well as for women who have known you for a while and already think of you as a friend. Bottom line: you must flirt with her, weird as it may feel to you the first time you do it. You must flirt.

Start doing all the flirting moves. You must ask, "What's the story behind that?" You must practice Situational Flirting and the Goodbye Introduction. You must conduct Romantic Conversations and Deepening Conversations. When you start incorporating these behaviors into your life, women will not wonder whether you are a wimpy friend or a potential lover. You'll be a potential lover every time or she'll get rid of you.

Be upbeat and be busy. The chances are you are kind of depressed when you're with her, complaining about your life and generally being a whiner. You must stop doing that right away. She should find herself thinking, "Wow, he seems pretty happy, even without me. I'd better get a piece of that!" rather than "Wow, this guy is a downer." You must act more upbeat, like you have something going on in your life. The best way to do this is to pursue other women (see above).

Refuse to stay just friends. If you do what we say, things will start seeming more romantic with the women you befriended. She'll either get with the program (and probably say, "You've changed!") or she'll tell you in no uncertain terms that you are now and will forever be just friends. If that happens, you have to stop hanging around with her. Without hedging, tell her, "I'm sorry, but it's too painful for me to be just friends with someone I feel this way about. I'm attracted to you." Then stop hanging around with her-at least then you'll be doing something positive for your self-esteem as a man.

Will this make her leave her boyfriend? We don't know, but we do know it will move you in the direction of getting the relationship you want, if not with her, then with someone else.

Best of luck!

7 Tips To Supercharge Your Seduction Success!

Part of learning any new technology is understanding some basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have helped many people with the initial Seduction learning curve. Remember, a huge part of Seduction is learning to use your language to...

Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!

As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then, will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the tools and language patterns in these articles are geared toward either doing this or gathering the information you need to do this.

Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many people think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100% FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to quickly create your own patterns.

Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about the gift you are giving her!

Tip 3: Practice the patterns outloud! The patterns are meant to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and tempo unless you practice OUTLOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!

Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Seduction is like learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking! Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes! Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!

Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another! You can make flash cards to quickly learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't done that...DO IT NOW!

Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up!

Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT closes:

Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see how much we can enjoy each other's company?

Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just seem that spending some time together is something we have to do?

Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to make sure we can talk again?

Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy each other's company..and I'm wondering if there's a number where you feel comfortable having me call you.

Till next time..

Peace

How To Turn That "Friend" Into Your Devoted Lover!

I guess around the world and guys from every walk of life, from every kind of culture, In every age range, you'd think guys have different problems wIih women.

But when it comes to women, I've learned, we are pretty much the same.

We all face pretty much the same challenges.

We are all pretty much trying to figure out the same puzzles.

Now, here is a question I have seen many times. I'll let the reader speak in his own voice:

"My name is XXX and I am 18 and from Ireland. I think your material is absolutely fantastic and it has thought me so many little things in which you should never, ever do with women! And for that I thank you most grateful .I don't know where you learned all of this but it really is great.

I have a problem though, and I know you are probably a very busy person who won't reply to this but I am going to write it none the less. I am completely falling for one of my friends. I feel a very strong sexual attraction towards her, perhaps stronger than I have ever felt before. I have never been closer to a girl. We talk for hours, we are physically close when we are with each other but I think she may be afraid of abandoning friendship. This is a serious gripe in my side. Is there anything I could do effectively to bring out her true feelings and desires without blatantly asking her? I suppose I want to know how do you tell when a girl gets close to you whether she is a friend or something more."

Ok, Mr. X.

The first thing to realize is, even if this girl is totally attracted to you, to the point where she is having nightly fantasies about you and her doing the nasty "grown-up" thang, there is just about zero chance, especially given her young age, that she is going to make the first physical move.

Sorry, but that just isn't the way it works.

I really wish it weren't the case that we guys almost always have to go first.

But that is how it works.

So if you were hoping for her to make a move, or tell you herself, it's unlikely to happen.

Now, even if she is afraid of "losing the friendship" that doesn't mean you have to let her fears dictate where you or her are going to go.

As I have said before, one of the key aspects of being a leader with women, is to see where they are at, without having to go there for yourself.

That is, you can understand her emotions, without having to take them on for yourself.

Her fear is just that; H-E-R-S.

Stand your ground, and set the lead

Does that make sense?

Now, having set that, there are some things you can do to accelerate this sexually and see just where you really stand.

First of all, let me tell you what I do NOT recommend.

I do NOT recommend suddenly grabbing and kissing her.

Why?

It's too rough a jump.

To go from zero contact to erotic contact(like kissing) is just too abrupt.

So I would recommend you do some testing of her physical boundaries first.

Now, it just so happens, women have 3 "erotic hot spots" that seem like totally innocent places to touch.

These are:

1. The back of the neck
2. The small of the back
3. The palm(and thumb)

Here is what you can do:

When you are talking to her, get up to go to the bathroom, but as you do, reach out, and with the palm of your hand, gently rub the back of your neck.

Notice her response. If she inhales sharply, moans with pleasure, melts under your touch, then you are on your way!

Another thing you can do is to offer to read her palm. Don't' ask me how to do palm reading; go to the library and get a book on it.

Anyway, you can mostly make it up. Tell her her palm shows she is lonely. Trace your finger on her palm and tell her that her love line is very strong, that she has strong desires. Explain also that the palm is a strong energy center, then take your thumb and rub her palm with your thumb.

If you see her get the "doggy dinner bowl" look; the look that says, "kiss me now" then lean in and kiss her! If she pulls back, don't apologize! Just look at her and say, "hmmm…it just seemed like you needed it"!

Another thing to do is to put your palm briefly on the small of her back when you are walking somewhere. Don't keep it there. Just use it to guide her briefly and then take it away. The small of the back is a strong sexual energy center.

The best advice is: learn from this. Don't be too attached to this outcome with this girl. Remember this belief;

I either get what I want, or learn what I need to in order to get what I want or even BETER, next time.

If you see all of this through the filter of THAT belief, you will do way better with this girl than if you HAVE to "win".

Good luck, and let us know how it turns out.

7 Power Attitudes To Skyrocket Your Success With Women!

It's been said that "attitude" determines your "altitude". In other words, the way you THINK about yourself and a subject will be as important as what you do.

Well, let's not knock doing the right thing. Effective action, especially with women, is REQUIRED.

However, your attitude is a big part of how attractive women will find you. You can consider your attitude to be like the conductive medium through which the electricity of your BEHAVIOR will flow. If we take electric current and try to pass it through:

a. A sheet of cardboard

b. A sheet of copper foil

Which will conduct the current best? Of course, you don't need to be a physics major to answer: the copper foil. Just so, your attitude with WOMEN will determine just how well your "moves" are received. Doesn't that make sense?

With that in mind I give you:

POWER ATTITUDES for ultimate success with women.

1. Being with me is the best possible choice any woman can make.

Now, can you prove that this is true? No, of course not. It isn't a factual statement about an objective truth; it's a position you choose to come from. Now, never verbalize this attitude, for Christ sake. Don't get right in a woman's face and say, "being with me is the best choice you can make, baby. But show it in how you act.

2. I consistently display the willingness to walk away.

This is one MOST "chumps" miss. You see, if a woman doesn't get, somewhere in her mind, that she could POSSIBLY do something to lose you, she will never really feel deep passion for you.

If you are ALWAYS there for her, no matter what, then in the back of her mind, she will de-value you, to a greater or lesser degree. Somewhere, somehow, in the back of her mind (or even the front) she must realize that she COULD one day lose you!

3. I give a woman a little bit of what she wants, and then pull back and make her work for more.

As sad as it seems, if you are too giving to a woman, too soon, you come off as hungry and needy and she just winds up dumping you. You see, guys who are successful with women give a free sample, but nice guy losers give away the store. You must, no MUST learn to say "no", make yourself a little scarce and unavailable, and keep her a little bit in doubt.

4. I always come from the place of being determined to do what works.

So many times I've had people whine to me, "Why can't I just be myself?" What that really means is, "I want to be lazy and do what I've always done all along, even though it doesn't work!"

Look, to really win big in life, you have to be consistent. And that means applying these principles, all the time, even when you don't particularly feel like it, and especially if you are in a slump.

5. I never attach excess meaning to winning or losing with women.

I can do a whole issue on this one, but basically what I mean is to realize that if a woman accepts you, it doesn't mean that the next one will, so stay on your toes, and don't get lazy or sloppy. (See item #4 directly above)

And if she rejects you, it just means that the approach you tried, at this particular time, with this particular woman, hasn't worked...yet. It might work at another time with her, or you may just need another approach. Even if it doesn't, as I once told a friend of mine who only thought he saw me get rejected... Dan, I never get rejected. I only discover if a woman has good taste!!

6. I don't need to win all the time; I size up a woman's potential and either go for it or move on and cut my losses FAST.

Sometimes the best choice is just to say, "adios" and move on. When you realize that you don't have to win all the time, and then it takes the pressure off and you become much more relaxed. Ironically, and paradoxically, this almost always leads to your winning far more often than you ever imagined possible!!!!

7. I never know what physical type a woman will go for so I always for it congruently and powerfully.

Listen: women are much more individualistic in what they like, physically speaking. I once had a gorgeous young thing tell me that if Mel Gibson or Tom Cruise asked her out, she'd say, "no" because she only liked tall, thin black men!! You just don't know, so go for it anyway.

Aren't those just great? Can you imagine how great you'll do with women when you have these attitudes down and are manifesting them in your life?