The Top Ten Reasons to Flirt Online

Flirting online, whether you are on MySpace, FriendFinder using instant messaging software, or simply via e-mail, is fun. In fact, men and women alike have found it is a great deal of fun to leave flirty e-mails that tease the brain as well as the senses.

Why is flirting online so much fun? Here are the top ten reasons.

Electronic flirting is not as intimidating as flirting in person.

Many people find that flirting online is less intimidating because you are not as self-conscious on the Internet. You are flirting from the safety and security of your own home.

You can flirt any time, day or night.

Flirting online knows no time zone or standard clock. If you are in a sexy mood late at night or first thing in the morning, you can leave a flirty e-mail or message for someone without interrupting them.

You don’t have to worry about your appearance.

Online flirting can be successfully done while in a suit or in your bathrobe, unlike meeting someone for dinner. Unless you have a web cam, it’s all the same to the person receiving the message.
You can carefully plan your thoughts before writing them – unlike saying them unrehearsed.

Wouldn’t it be nice if we had a delete key for real-life speaking situations? Flirting online allows you to have a better sense of control over your message and your approach.
You can surprise someone with a sexy e-mail message.

When you are with an intimate friend, it is a given you will flirt. A flirty e-mail is unexpected and is a thrill to receive.

You can flirt with a wide variety of people online, whereas you may be limited in social settings.

In a social setting, the opportunity for flirting may not come up. You could be in a crowded place, and you could want to flirt with the best looking person in the room. Doing so would leave you blushing and perhaps at a loss for words. Online, when you aren’t standing right in front of the great looking guy or girl, is the perfect chance for you to flirt like crazy.

There are no time commitments to flirting online.

You can sign on to the Internet and send a flirty instant message in under five minutes. Getting dressed up, going out, meeting the person, and carrying on a conversation can take hours.
Flirting online is practically free.

Aside from a DSL or broadband Internet statement each month (which you would have regardless of whether or not you were flirting online), teasing people online is free. Going out costs money; flirting online is the budget-conscious thing to do.

You have the person’s undivided attention.

Chatting online or sending e-mails is great because you aren’t competing with other people for the person’s attention. Usually, if the time is not right, the reader will return to the message or e-mail at a more convenient time. The message is stated and can be better interpreted than it would have been if you’d said it in a crowded room.

You can go back and re-read the sensual e-mails you’ve gotten.

In real life settings, we rely on memories to recall sexy conversations. Online chats can be reviewed and saved for future reference. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could document our offline steamy chat?

How To Be Popular - Dating Tips for Teenagers

Most teenagers would like to be popular if they could. But many are baffled as to just what it takes to achieve popularity, or even to get a date. Knowing that is generally considered attractive to the opposite sex helps.



Also understanding what boys expect of girls and what girls expect of boys in a given community is especially important.

In general young people like members of the other sex who are

1. Careful of their personal appearance
2. Courteous and thoughtful; and
3. Fun to be with.

A girl doesn't have to be a beauty to get a date. She just has to dress appropriately, be neat and well groomed, and then try to forget her appearance. The same goes for a boy. If he's clean and neat (hair combed, fresh shirt, nails clean) he's acceptable, and probably attractive to someone.

Courtesy is mentioned frequently by both boys and girls as a desirable quality in a date. Actually, being courteous is just being thoughtful of others; it's easy to get the habit. Sometimes a young person grows up in a family that is careless or casual about little courtesies, and he has to learn not to speak when someone else is talking, not to talk with a mouth full of food.

If you keep your voice low and pleasant, say "Thank you" and "Excuse me" at appropriate times, it makes a pleasant impression on new and old friends. Some schools have special courses in social arts where students get opportunities for practicing those graces that make getting along with others easy. Books, articles, and lectures also help to give boys and girls an idea of what kind of behavior is expected of them when they begin to have dates.

When you say "Ted is such fun to be with!" do you know why? Do you realize it takes practice to become a "fun person"? It involves some rather complicated skills-knowing how to carry on a conversation, knowing how to enter a group pleasantly, being able to accept and refuse invitations graciously, assuming responsibility for one's part in the group activity, and generally making others glad that you're there.

Most boys and girls are awkward in group situations at first. But as they gain experience, first in simple situations with .^others who know and like them, they get over being self-conscious. Soon they become so poised that they feel at home in most social situations. But this takes time and experience -lots of it.

It is no accident that boys and girls who have belonged to clubs and organizations get along more easily with people than do those who have grown up somewhat isolated. Being a member of a group not only gives you experience in planning and making decisions with others, in carrying responsibility for your part in a project, but it also introduces you to a variety of human situations and human beings. You begin to learn how the next guy "ticks."

If you want to be more acceptable to the other sex, then you ought to get into group activities with other young people of both sexes. Mingling with a mixed group will ready you for dating and develop those skills which will help you carry off a date successfully.

Tips on Leaving Voice Message to Attract Women

Women we've surveyed tell us that when they first get in contact with a guy via voice mail, they are mostly trying to find out how the sound of the guy's voice makes them feel. Put yourself in her position: She's thinking, "Sure, the guy is saying things, but what does he look like? And how does his voice make me feel? Does he sound scary? Does he sound sad? Or does he sound full of life, awake, and into things?"

So there are two things you have to think about. First, what you say. Second, how you sound saying it.

First, what you say. You might start off with something like:

"Hi there! I'm glad you wanted me to call. My name is [first name]. You are probably most curious just to hear the sound of my voice, and to see how it makes you feel--sort of a 'does this guy sound cool?' situation. So, well, here I am; I hope you like the sound of me, and
that you feel good hearing my voice. I'd be very interested in hearing yours!"

Then you can basically just re-say some of the stuff you said in your personals ad, and perhaps expand upon it a BIT. The biggest mistake you can make here is to go on for three, four, or five minutes about yourself. Remember, at the beginning, most women are not interested in you--they are interested in how you make them feel. So you want to leave a lot to the imagination.

Describe yourself physically, and say a few things about what you are into, or mention what you do for a living--whatever you think will be most likely to capture her imagination. It's a good idea to mention any "special features" you have. If you are tall, say so. If you are at all attractive or fit, say so, by saying something like "People tell me I'm attractive, and I pay attention to how I look" or "I work out regularly and keep myself fit." If you are rich, you might say, "I've been lucky enough to have abundant money in my life, so that has given me some freedom to travel that I have really appreciated."

The bottom line is this, though: the shorter the better--You really don't have to go on for very long.

Second, how you sound saying it: Of course, if this going to work, your voice has to sound good. If your voice sounds like a rusty saw, upset, angry, sad, or is unpleasant to listen to, then you have some work to do.

You can improve the sound of your voice, and it's worth doing if your voice doesn't sound as nice as it could. Do some deep breathing before calling, and try warming up your voice by taking a deep breath, and making a low "ahhhh" sound as you exhale (do this BEFORE calling her, not WHILE calling her. Most women do not consider deep breathing and moans to be very seductive on the first phone call. Go figure.).

Remember to breath fully while you speak, and smile as you leave the message. Some of our students have good luck leaving messages right after they work out, because that's when their voices sound strongest, fullest and most vibrant. There may be some other time of the day when
you feel most vibrant. Leave your message then.

At the end of your message, remember to make an invitation to her: "If this sounds interesting to you, please contact me," and tell her how. Leave both your phone number and your email address, so she can contact you even if she's afraid to call.

And finally, don't worry about it. You are better off leaving a sincere if stammering message than a practiced but artificial-sounding one. Go over what you might say, then just call, talk, and don't worry about it.