It's been said that "attitude" determines your "altitude". In other words, the way you THINK about yourself and a subject will be as important as what you do.Well, let's not knock doing the right thing. Effective action, especially with women, is REQUIRED.
However, your attitude is a big part of how attractive women will find you. You can consider your attitude to be like the conductive medium through which the electricity of your BEHAVIOR will flow. If we take electric current and try to pass it through:
a. A sheet of cardboard
b. A sheet of copper foil
Which will conduct the current best? Of course, you don't need to be a physics major to answer: the copper foil. Just so, your attitude with WOMEN will determine just how well your "moves" are received. Doesn't that make sense?
With that in mind I give you:
POWER ATTITUDES for ultimate success with women.
1. Being with me is the best possible choice any woman can make.
Now, can you prove that this is true? No, of course not. It isn't a factual statement about an objective truth; it's a position you choose to come from. Now, never verbalize this attitude, for Christ sake. Don't get right in a woman's face and say, "being with me is the best choice you can make, baby. But show it in how you act.
2. I consistently display the willingness to walk away.
This is one MOST "chumps" miss. You see, if a woman doesn't get, somewhere in her mind, that she could POSSIBLY do something to lose you, she will never really feel deep passion for you.
If you are ALWAYS there for her, no matter what, then in the back of her mind, she will de-value you, to a greater or lesser degree. Somewhere, somehow, in the back of her mind (or even the front) she must realize that she COULD one day lose you!
3. I give a woman a little bit of what she wants, and then pull back and make her work for more.
As sad as it seems, if you are too giving to a woman, too soon, you come off as hungry and needy and she just winds up dumping you. You see, guys who are successful with women give a free sample, but nice guy losers give away the store. You must, no MUST learn to say "no", make yourself a little scarce and unavailable, and keep her a little bit in doubt.
4. I always come from the place of being determined to do what works.
So many times I've had people whine to me, "Why can't I just be myself?" What that really means is, "I want to be lazy and do what I've always done all along, even though it doesn't work!"
Look, to really win big in life, you have to be consistent. And that means applying these principles, all the time, even when you don't particularly feel like it, and especially if you are in a slump.
5. I never attach excess meaning to winning or losing with women.
I can do a whole issue on this one, but basically what I mean is to realize that if a woman accepts you, it doesn't mean that the next one will, so stay on your toes, and don't get lazy or sloppy. (See item #4 directly above)
And if she rejects you, it just means that the approach you tried, at this particular time, with this particular woman, hasn't worked...yet. It might work at another time with her, or you may just need another approach. Even if it doesn't, as I once told a friend of mine who only thought he saw me get rejected... Dan, I never get rejected. I only discover if a woman has good taste!!
6. I don't need to win all the time; I size up a woman's potential and either go for it or move on and cut my losses FAST.
Sometimes the best choice is just to say, "adios" and move on. When you realize that you don't have to win all the time, and then it takes the pressure off and you become much more relaxed. Ironically, and paradoxically, this almost always leads to your winning far more often than you ever imagined possible!!!!
7. I never know what physical type a woman will go for so I always for it congruently and powerfully.
Listen: women are much more individualistic in what they like, physically speaking. I once had a gorgeous young thing tell me that if Mel Gibson or Tom Cruise asked her out, she'd say, "no" because she only liked tall, thin black men!! You just don't know, so go for it anyway.
Aren't those just great? Can you imagine how great you'll do with women when you have these attitudes down and are manifesting them in your life?
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