How To Turn That "Friend" Into Your Devoted Lover!

I guess around the world and guys from every walk of life, from every kind of culture, In every age range, you'd think guys have different problems wIih women.

But when it comes to women, I've learned, we are pretty much the same.

We all face pretty much the same challenges.

We are all pretty much trying to figure out the same puzzles.

Now, here is a question I have seen many times. I'll let the reader speak in his own voice:

"My name is XXX and I am 18 and from Ireland. I think your material is absolutely fantastic and it has thought me so many little things in which you should never, ever do with women! And for that I thank you most grateful .I don't know where you learned all of this but it really is great.

I have a problem though, and I know you are probably a very busy person who won't reply to this but I am going to write it none the less. I am completely falling for one of my friends. I feel a very strong sexual attraction towards her, perhaps stronger than I have ever felt before. I have never been closer to a girl. We talk for hours, we are physically close when we are with each other but I think she may be afraid of abandoning friendship. This is a serious gripe in my side. Is there anything I could do effectively to bring out her true feelings and desires without blatantly asking her? I suppose I want to know how do you tell when a girl gets close to you whether she is a friend or something more."

Ok, Mr. X.

The first thing to realize is, even if this girl is totally attracted to you, to the point where she is having nightly fantasies about you and her doing the nasty "grown-up" thang, there is just about zero chance, especially given her young age, that she is going to make the first physical move.

Sorry, but that just isn't the way it works.

I really wish it weren't the case that we guys almost always have to go first.

But that is how it works.

So if you were hoping for her to make a move, or tell you herself, it's unlikely to happen.

Now, even if she is afraid of "losing the friendship" that doesn't mean you have to let her fears dictate where you or her are going to go.

As I have said before, one of the key aspects of being a leader with women, is to see where they are at, without having to go there for yourself.

That is, you can understand her emotions, without having to take them on for yourself.

Her fear is just that; H-E-R-S.

Stand your ground, and set the lead

Does that make sense?

Now, having set that, there are some things you can do to accelerate this sexually and see just where you really stand.

First of all, let me tell you what I do NOT recommend.

I do NOT recommend suddenly grabbing and kissing her.

Why?

It's too rough a jump.

To go from zero contact to erotic contact(like kissing) is just too abrupt.

So I would recommend you do some testing of her physical boundaries first.

Now, it just so happens, women have 3 "erotic hot spots" that seem like totally innocent places to touch.

These are:

1. The back of the neck
2. The small of the back
3. The palm(and thumb)

Here is what you can do:

When you are talking to her, get up to go to the bathroom, but as you do, reach out, and with the palm of your hand, gently rub the back of your neck.

Notice her response. If she inhales sharply, moans with pleasure, melts under your touch, then you are on your way!

Another thing you can do is to offer to read her palm. Don't' ask me how to do palm reading; go to the library and get a book on it.

Anyway, you can mostly make it up. Tell her her palm shows she is lonely. Trace your finger on her palm and tell her that her love line is very strong, that she has strong desires. Explain also that the palm is a strong energy center, then take your thumb and rub her palm with your thumb.

If you see her get the "doggy dinner bowl" look; the look that says, "kiss me now" then lean in and kiss her! If she pulls back, don't apologize! Just look at her and say, "hmmm…it just seemed like you needed it"!

Another thing to do is to put your palm briefly on the small of her back when you are walking somewhere. Don't keep it there. Just use it to guide her briefly and then take it away. The small of the back is a strong sexual energy center.

The best advice is: learn from this. Don't be too attached to this outcome with this girl. Remember this belief;

I either get what I want, or learn what I need to in order to get what I want or even BETER, next time.

If you see all of this through the filter of THAT belief, you will do way better with this girl than if you HAVE to "win".

Good luck, and let us know how it turns out.